Most victims know their attacker.

Forced sexual activity is sexual assault, even if you have been or are
sexually involved with your attacker. Simply, sex without permission is rape and a crime.

 

How to keep you and your friends safe
  • Go out in groups and meet in public places.
  • Have a plan and tell your parents or other responsible adults about where you are going on a date, with whom and when you will be back.
  • When going out with someone for the first time, double dating is a great idea!
  • If your parents aren’t home, avoid giving that information to your date.
  • It’s okay to be picky. You don’t have to go out with just anyone.
  • Remember that you are special.
  • Be honest about what you want and don’t want. You have a right to set limits. Don’t worry about hurting someone’s feelings or being polite.
  • If someone is trying to force you to have sex, use the word RAPE. That can be shocking on a date. It's fairly common for date rapists to believe that what they are doing isn't rape. You can also lie... your friends will be right back, your parents are expecting you or everyone saw you together.
  • Have your date meet your parents, and meet your date’s parents.
  • It’s okay to walk away from an uncomfortable situation.
  • Always carry a fully charged cell phone and extra money for cab fare.
  • Never drink alcohol or take other drugs on a date. Arrange for a safe ride home should your date begin drinking alcohol or taking drugs.
  • You don’t owe anyone anything – especially sexual favors.
  • Trust your instincts and be assertive. You have a right to say “no” or to say that you are expecting someone or have to make a phone call in order to get out of an uncomfortable situation.
  • Avoid parties where there is excessive alcohol or drug use. Studies show that 75% of date rapists and 55% of victims have been drinking or using drugs.
  • If you’re going to a party, use the buddy system. It sounds corny, but it's a great way to protect each other. There is safety in numbers.
  • When you’re leaving, don’t announce that you are walking home. Try to stay in groups.
  • Be cautious about giving too much personal information to someone you just met.
  • Avoid being alone in unknown or isolated places.
  • Be aware of your surroundings and what is going on around you.

 

Most victims of sexual violence know the person who assaults them. And young women are at greatest risk. But there are things you can do to help keep you and your friends safe.